H never came back from Iraq

[MichelleLT]

It's a fairly hypothetical question since I haven't spoken to H since Dec 16th. But the lack of contact is wearing on me a bit since he also hasn't done anything (so far as I know) to get the D started. And I would like to do something fun with him if he's open to the idea. I'm not even sure how I'd bring it up though.

The Internet seems to have become one of his obsessions. It kinda started when he was deployed, which I understood since it was his only real connection to me and to the outside world. H stopped mostly when he first got home (or he hid it better than he did this summer) and started getting worse (in that he'd be on his computer all evening and ignore me and everyone else) along with everything else last spring. Since OW is big into MySpace and Friendster some of his updates/blogs may be to appease her even though her name was not mentioned.

But it's only the tip of the iceburg if he's still browsing Craig's List and looking at all his porn sites. Plus H and OW were exchanging S&M web links and subscriptions. I see it as a yet another way for him to avoid reality and a barrier between us, I'm not sure what he sees it as. *shrugs* Although it does make me think that whatever he feels was missing in our R, he hasn't actually found.