By monitoring my own behavior, I can keep my own attachment at a level appropriate for the relationship with the goal in mind of being in the best relationship possible for me. I hope that made some kind of sense.
Oh, well... this I VERY MUCH get. I can't say I won't DO something... but just because I DO, doesn't mean I am THERE forever. Oh, I am so all over that... "honey... just because I get all gush, doesn't mean I'm all gushy... it just means... I'm gushy for a bit. Oh... PLEASE Let Me ENjoy it, and don't [censored] up my fantasy.
That... is merely a crush.
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So what you are saying is that a woman who says she doesn't want a LTR is inherently dishonest, or at least delusional, because she will want one once she gets involved with a man?
For many... uh.. hate to say it.. yes.
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I can keep my own attachment at a level appropriate for the relationship with the goal in mind of being in the best relationship possible for me.
Well... yes... but sorry, many women are not honest about that. I give you loads of credit if you are.
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I suspect the woman you describe, assuming she doesn't have a frighteningly dysfunctional bunny, is much like the "male-affectionate, easy to get along with, non-political agenda lesbian"
Tee hee. Were I letting my bunny out to play with my Monkey only being her chaperone... I can't say that I would be all that worried about what genders' bed in which I'd end up.
Especially at this point in my life.
Based on my friends' responses, here, thank you... you are so very lovely Corri friendly, I appreciate it... but I think I just might go with SG on this one. "I don't get you sometimes, but you're smart, energetic and funny. LT or short term there'll be plenty of guys looking for just that."
And I just need to keep that in mind.
I DO know that I have a bit of wild side to me... and my lioness ( I know now ) can run free, every bit as much as my monkey... or even my bunny... just need to find a guy who can tolerate my zoo... my cow is firmly planted... I have kids... two lovely, beautiful boy/man hockey players, of whom I am so proud... maybe these two years out... three coming up in June... have not been such a waste... I feel the need to go to Tuscany... LOL.
