A woman's mind get's brain soaked way before a man's.
So what you are saying is that a woman who says she doesn't want a LTR is inherently dishonest, or at least delusional, because she will want one once she gets involved with a man? That's pretty much the premise of "Be Honest, You're Not All That Into Him Either." 'cause you think you can handle sex but sex handles you instead. This is one of those things that is true but not true. I think, on some level, you can manage sexual relationship "brain soak" in the same way you might manage drinking too much. When I was in the depths of infatuation with NG, I found myself playing a CD he burned for me over and over again. Some sane part of me that has learned a thing or two told me to stop that behavior. So I stopped the behavior and stopping the behavior broke the infatuation. Same basic thing I did when I enacted my "don't hug people who don't hug you back" embargo during my SSM. By monitoring my own behavior, I can keep my own attachment at a level appropriate for the relationship with the goal in mind of being in the best relationship possible for me. I hope that made some kind of sense. -lol
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
