I think I 'settled' for h. I think I thought I wasn't worth better, so I put up with poor behaviour from him and didn't call him on it. In effect, I guess I made my own bed when I didn't stand up for myself and therefore he had no idea of what was respectful of me and my boundaries cos I was too chicken to say what I wanted from him. Because I had not grown up on my own (got together quite young) and followed him in so many things I never worked out what I actually wanted. All I knew I wanted was to be with him and to be financially secure.
