One of his Uncles and current wife were affair partners and got married.. lovely...
I know what that's like.
My husband's father had a long-term affair and married her... and they were part of that small percentage of affair-marriages that work out. It's not easy to "fight" role models like that.
But you are smart and you seem to have this DBing down so either way I know you'll be fine. Hey, you just may be "too busy" to go the wedding. Maybe "important plans" that you can't cancel.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
