Just bought a 1 way non-refundable ticket to Dtown

[Michael Mc C]

Here's my take on it. Your wife has come to her senses. She has realized that what she felt was excitement, attraction and I'm sure she was getting some much need attention (no offense meant).

What she did NOT feel was the loving bond that she already had with you.

I understand wishing he was leaving with a negative impact on her but honestly I think your wife has simply come out of the fog. There is no need for her to despise him. In fact she probably feels a bit guilty (for him) because she allowed a relationship to begin in the first place.

She did not set out with the intention to hurt anyone and she knows that this has caused pain all around.

AND it doesn't sound like she's planning on coming back out of a sense of obligation. It sounds like she WANTS to be back and that she WANTS your marriage to work.

I am very happy for you right now. I don't think it's going to be easy of course but I would much rather have my wife decide to come back to me instead of wondering if she comes back out of default - because there was nothing better.

That, as they say, is my 2 cents.