It isn't always about sex, Burg. Often times, it seems that.
For example, I turned the tables on my x. I WAS willing to give him what he wanted. He just couldn't give me what I wanted. And that's cool. But again... as my sex life showed... it was never about sex. As my shrink told me, again, and again, and again...
ETA: The mechanics of sex always worked. O's all around. I guess the reason why LFL said 'EWH' when I suggested the male escort is because... it ISN'T just about the O, at least for a woman. But an LD man can at least grasp the concept, because he IS a man... and men CAN do that. And it is OKAY for a man to do that with his wife, if that what she wants... because it is done with love. He just needs to really know it... which maybe is what LFL is getting now... kinda like GEL's H... You know? "No, fck ME, LFL, the lusty WOMAN... not the mother of your children... damm it. I WANT that, k? Do you HEAR? GET IT?"
