When you LOSE the anger, and the person honestly knows that you aren't BLAMING them, you ACCEPT them... but you are OUTTA THERE... most times... it's the 2x4 shift to slam the wax out of the LD's ears... because it ISN'T a power play... and you can FEEL it. Immediately.
This is true but by the time the HD spouse is OUTTA THERE they are almost certainly having sex with somebody else at least in their mind. It still boggles my mind that my 2bx didn't realize that the fact that we were separated and the fact that I was sex-starved would add up to the fact of me dating other men. The only difference between my sich and that of the HDfolk who cheated was that I was honest about my intentions yet still my 2bx was clueless until slammed up against the reality of an honest-to-goodness other man. The honesty of the OUTTA HERE statement means that at that point the HD spouse is back on the open sexual market and the LD spouse better hope that he/she still looks pretty good in that context because sentimental attachments are gone.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
