My H moved himself to the couch even before I knew about the A (he had started off with the ILYBNILWY stuff before confessing the A). It was hard to sleep without him, and even to this day, I will lay in bed, thinking of him downstairs. Its hard to feel so distant from your spouse.
You are doing great. Do not stop DB'ing. If anything it is creating peace in your house and allowing you to communicate with H. I would ignore all his D comments (the 2nd wife thing was sooo rude!) and just change the subject. DB'ing is for you too. It starts off feeling 'fake' and like work, but then your married self will start feeling more independent and stronger, and then it'll be easier to DB because you are more at peace with yourself.
