In all honsesty, I believe you're justifying your own behaviors and keeping score with W. If you really don't like this situation and don't want to go through this stuff in an attempt to save the M (i.e. thinking she should file if she's going to do these things you've mentioned), then you should file. If you do confront her, like TB said -- you will most likely only push her further away (i.e. she will rebel against you more) and surely ruin any chance of reconciliation.
JM makes a good point too (as always), and his advice and pov are always invaluable.
I repeat everything I said in my last post, as well.
And don't act on your emotions alone, brotha. Use a large dose of reason with them.
