But your son doesn't know, and your children have not yet met her. Whatever reason they have not been introduced, it still comes down to a very important part of his life, the children, have no part of his life with her. I do not imagine that is a good sign for their relationship.
3 years, don't know about your background, but if you feel like he is using you are you in a place to let him know that and...I am figuring that you aren't about to tolerate it.
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