Thanks Dom. I'll probably read the 5LL first. Seems like i ned to know what i want/need before anything else is really going to make any difference.
I know that doing the non baby stuff would be fine with me, but his babies are the ones hurting from his lack of attention. D3 on the way to work this morning. "mommy, i miss having my daddy love me" i almost cried... she was sooo sad. I just told her daddy hasn't been feeling well. If he didn't want them or the responsiblity, he shouldn't have applied for the job. Sorry bout that... mini vent.
It's funny. For the first time in about 6 months, i finally got him to take out the trash. Where we live, we have big trashcans and have to walk them to a dumpster, i'd ask and ask and then i'd just go do it. The last month or so, he has been. I thank him every time. I really do appreciate it. maybe i could get him to feed the dog next...
I don't even mind so much his not helping me, it when he gets mad that not everything is done to his standards (which seem near impossible to me). I think it would have to be easier to help though, than to lower your standard of how you want to live. i dunno.
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