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The need to feel physical desire from one's spouse, however, is not so easy to dismiss.


Yes it is. BTDT. In the mind of an LD, 'sexual desire' is the same thing as saying, "I need sex from you."

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I need to feel that my husband physically desires me"...can anybody really say, "That's understandable but it's just too bad" in response to that?


Yup. Absolutely can... and the person can feel it without the least bit of 'harshness' to it.

When you need something from someone who is unwilling to GIVE it, you are pretty much out of luck, because no matter what you do/say, you are going to come off as needy and clingy.

When you LOSE the anger, and the person honestly knows that you aren't BLAMING them, you ACCEPT them... but you are OUTTA THERE... most times... it's the 2x4 shift to slam the wax out of the LD's ears... because it ISN'T a power play... and you can FEEL it. Immediately.