I did get the word last night that she was feeling pressured. But thinking about it whether or not I pressure I think she might feel pressured.
Well, of course she is feeling pressured... because she knows she has to step up to the plate. An air of expectation is probably hanging out there... but gosh, you ARE a man, you ARE married... sex IS part of that...
Maybe you can have a non-bedroom, non-confrontational talk... short one... that tells her that you do see sharing a vibrant sex life with her as a vital part of the marriage equation, and you are NOT giving up that particular want/need. Tell her the last thing you want to do is have sex with a non-willing wife... so no worries there. (Can you say it in a way... that conveys the attitude... "and quite honestly, I don't even know that you have it in you, frankly..." without it sounding/coming off as degrading or judgmental?)
When a guy looks me in the eye and honestly says... "Uhhhhmmmm... geesh, Corri, I just don't think you can do it... come on, now, don't hurt yourself... let's forget it..."
Can you get a mental pix of what that immediately does to my determination?
Btw, I'm glad I'm not your high school sweety that was so traumatic... LOL. I guess I gotta work on my persona, or get monster laid or something... I am coming off sooooo... cold, or something.
Guess I'm a lioness... may as well own it. sigh Nothing wrong with that... but... significantly shortens the 'friends who feel safe with me' list.
