Originally Posted By: Dom R
men hate MC
men hate IC
men hate "reading relationship books".

All those are "things to go read/talk/communicate", not "things to do", in man-speak.

Give him something to DO ! \:D
Don't i know it. I know he hates those things, that's why I don't bring them up anymore.

I need a "man-speak" dictionary... please. \:D

What can he do. The dishes, change a diaper, fold laundry, go to sleep at a decent time of night, wake up while it's still morning, be more patient with his daughters, give them a bath. These are all things I've asked him to do over and over again. There is always an excuse. I'm sure he doesn't see how that could help the R. It probably wouldn't directly, but it would show me that he cares about his family and that he is willing to help me out and be a husband and father. Other than that kind of stuff, i don't know what to tell him.
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As far as not feeling love towards him... yes, there are things you can tell him on that.

Figure out what would make you feel loved by him, and then ask him to do it.

To that end:
I'd suggest go read "the five love languages", or "fall in love, stay in love", with a view to what makes YOU happy.
Once you get a better idea of yourself... then share it with your H \:\)

Oh... you mean i actually have to know what i want. ;\) I think It's just hard to pin point what it is that's missing. I have a hard time even understanding, much less explaining how i'm feeling. It's almost like when you are getting ready to leave for a trip and you know you are forgetting something, but you don't know what it is then you are half way where you are going and you realize you forgot the directions. I feel like i know somethings missing, i'm not sure exactly what it is, but its missing. Eventually i'm going to figure it out, but until then, i feel like i don't know where i'm going. Maybe, because i'm fluent in "women speak" the 5LL book will help me...

I've got this whole list of books to read. 5LL is on it. working my way to that point. At this point, anyone have an opinion as to which would be more beneficial to read first: 5LL or men are from mars? I've got both and am almost done reading the one i'm on now.
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Basically, sounds like you have the classic female job of a "relationship interpreter".
I don't recall ever filling out an application for relationship interpreter... hehe. I get that though. I think he's just as lost as I am. I say "ok what can i do" and end up with not a whole lot and he says, "i don't know, W, what can i do"... \:\) now if only I knew.

Thanks Dom...

If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown

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