The last thing i want to do is lie to him, so i end up playing silly games of avoidance or rewording stuff. I'll try to think of things i can tell him to actually do, but I just don't know what they are. I'm not happy with where we are at because 1) i'm not in love with/attracted to him (don't know that there is anything i can tell him on that one)
.... 3) because he doesn't seem to do anything to work on our M. There are other little things, but these are the big ones. (ummm, read a book, go to MC with me, go to IC for you... etc. he doesn't like those ideas)
men hate MC men hate IC men hate "reading relationship books".
All those are "things to go read/talk/communicate", not "things to do", in man-speak.
Give him something to DO !
As far as not feeling love towards him... yes, there are things you can tell him on that.
Figure out what would make you feel loved by him, and then ask him to do it.
To that end: I'd suggest go read "the five love languages", or "fall in love, stay in love", with a view to what makes YOU happy. Once you get a better idea of yourself... then share it with your H
Basically, sounds like you have the classic female job of a "relationship interpreter".
First, you figure out what is missing in your relationship. That's your job, and your job alone, at this point. Your husband doesnt speak "relationship". Then, put it into words that he can understand
Last edited by Dom R; 01/07/0809:10 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
