I am fighting the good fight as best I can, still searching for that fine line between "doormat" and "open to reconciliation." Hey, that reminds me, they're not only great at making you feel like crap and this is all your fault, you'll find they're just as adept at manipulating you to do insane stuff like move out of your house.
If you want to read some specific crazyness (hers and mine) go to "Holiday Shuffle"
The most effective thing to make you feel better is time.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.