That is the plan. I'm not asking her to do anything, calling except when I have to. Pretty much keeping it all business and seeing what happens. The 30 is more for me to figure some things out, not about the R. I have some major other issues going on right now, and just thought it better to resolve those prior to reassessing my M.
I just really don't have time for it right now. Even if she came over tonight and said lets do it, I'd seriously ask to speak after the 30 days, just not in a frame of mind to deal with her on any type of emotional level, and it is helping me to deal with her on an emotional level. Funny how that works.
Thats not to say I'm not watching as evidence above. I am, but I'm not going to hang my hat on anything. I'm just getting my "house" in order, then I'll be able to make some clear decisions.