My W's "explanation" for why she had an affair was that I was never happy. No, not SHE was never happy. Her observation was that I was never happy. So that was her "excuse" to go have an affair. Lately she has asked me, "Why are you so happy all the time?" Curious. (Her excuse has now changed to You neverseemedhappy.)
Why does she perceive me to be happy? Because I am making a conscious effort. I am finding joy in the things I do and I am doing the things that bring me joy. Even if what I had expected before is no longer available to me (ILY, or a simple kiss goodbye) I can still find joy and contentment in other things.
Give that gift to yourself.
Thanks Sir. I try so hard to be happy and it's not easy.
My H complimeneted me on my hair more than once and commented that I looked "dressed up". I'm wondering if I was too obvious. I told him that I was going to a friend's house after breakfast and left it at that.
He does realize that I have no need to GAL, because I already have one. I am a very sociable person with good friends and a very warm, nurturing family. He, by contrast, does not have the social network that I do and would prefer work every day including holidays. Maybe he's avoiding real relationships or something. I dunno.
Gee....should I do a 180 and break up with my friends and fam? Would that get any positive attention from him?
