I was going to write sooner, but this stupid site always seems to slow for me to wait.
I wouldn't beat myself up about your response to hearing your son talk about OM. Your wife has said on more than one occasion that she wants a relationship with you. Given the track record of your relationship, you have every right to question her about this. Her response was very suspicious, and I think time pretty much bore it out that she's still seeing this OM. My understanding, from previous posts, was that you were giving her a shot to prove she was actually trustworthy. And she hasn't really proven much. If it were me I'd take a gigantic step away from her....essentially using the rest of my 30 days to focus on my own life and not worry about whether she's capable of being a part of it.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt