Back at DB/new marriage new WAW part 2

[Atlas]

Good point, just asking.

I was thinking how you can show the judge that your trying to get the kids time with their mother. But it isn't right to pull the nanny into the middle of it.

Tell her to talk through the attorneys. I would just leave you out of it. Maybe ask your attorney what is best and go with that. He is going to know how she is going to best hang herself, but more importantly make you look as if your doing all you can.

Keep up the ducks back. Your doing awesome.

[dh4320]

thanks atlas and mako,

had a c session today and my C also says i am doing great i have mots the power right now, i let him read the emails and guess what he said the same thing everyone else says she feels bad about herself but wont take responsibility for it so she blames everything on me. He used an interesting scenario, picture yourself driving a car you hit ice and start sliding out of control you keep your hands on the steering wheel thinking you have control then bing you reealize there is nothing you can do to control the car so you let go of the wheel the car is going to crash eventually. So what do you do when the car crashes? total it or see if it can drive again and get fixed. Well it this scenario i have let go of the wheel realized the car(wife) is still out of control and hasnt crashed yet. I believe this is a great comparison to detaching i wish it was easier for more people on this board.

[smith18]

Another one...

Your W has jumped out of an airplane without a parachute and is unaware of how quickly the ground is approaching.

[dh4320]

another good one Kerry, its the weekend and of course the W makes no attempt to see the kids on weekends.

[dh4320]

Well W's aunt called last night and said W has not given her new cell to any family members. Basically told her family if they need to check on her welfare to contact her cousin dusty. The funny thing is her cousin and her are not even close so i believe she picked a family member to channel communication through who does not really have an opinion of what she has done. A lot of her family feel she has cut off communication bc she feels what she has done is wrong(in regards to the kids) and does not want to face the criticism. A rep from the Au pair service is coming y today for an in home interview so i must tidy up.

[dh4320]

The meeting with the Au pair rep went fine, she was impressed with the environment as well as the children and how they minded their father. She did dig a little as to my situation, i told her everything just like the current nanny i have she is concerned about the way the W is. But i assured her that nothing out of hand would happen my office is 3 minutes from my house and i could have the police dept here in minutes. Other than that no contact from the W just like every other weekend she is with the weddingsinger, i just cant deal with the emails she sends making herself out to be this concerned mother wanting to see the kids but only when she is not busy with OM, it pisses me off to no end...

[ann25]

Hi DH. You are right, play it by the books.

Something to think about and seeing as you know your W better than anyone here, I could be waaaay off, but who knows. Do you think she'd try to take the kids at some point during a visit? I only thought of it because a friend of mine was in a similar sitch (actually D for a while though) and one day during the visits she took the kids like normal, but never brought them back, it took them about 3 weeks to find her as she had left the state. Maybe that's one of the things the nanny is concerned about. I don't know...

Anyways... hang in there... sounds like you are doing good.

[dh4320]

Hi anne,

I dont think she will take the kids again she knows the amount of firepower i have with the law enforcement edge. W has been silent for about 4-5 days either she is laying low or the wedding singer had a gig at an ihop or dennys restaurant in another city. hehe Au pair sent me an email saying i was approved as a host family so now i begin the interview process of au pairs.

[ann25]

That's good. I was just reading about how the nanny was worried and it made me think of my friend. I forgot about the whole law enforcement thing.

Wedding singer... that cracks me up LOL. sorry

That's good that you got approved. So is the nanny temporary while you look for the au pair?

[Atlas]

I can't believe she has now cut off her family. Dude, that is crazy. Maybe we are married to the same person. Nothing surprises me anymore. I could be watching the news, and see W doing some crazy thing, and I'd just be like, ah figures.