I admire your patience and resolve to stick with your plan. Sorry to hear that OM is back. However, you pretty much knew that someone had to come in sooner than later, as that is your W's way of things.
It has to be some cosmic joke that your W is a C. From your account, she is actually good at it! I gues it is analogous to hiring a burglar to provide home security consulting.
Hang in there, my friend. Good luck with the 30 days and focus on your and the children. Your W is spinning like a top, so don't get sucked in by the excess gravitational pull.
Best, --Chris
Me: 40 She: 31 S: 5 D: 3 Married: 8 years (05 DEC 99) Blow-up: 02 JUN 07 Piecing (More like Ostriching): 22 FEB 08