I think you are right. He is fence sitting and he wants to have you when he wants and go his merry way otherwise. Good for you for sticking to your boundry! Even if the R with OW may be dwindling he still needs to work on his self for your R to make it.

Hope you have a good day.

JAK

You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez