I think Rob's point is well-taken. She needs to know your intentions, without pursuing. If all she sees is your absence, the why should she want "back in"? She needs a small taste of the fun she'll be missing out on. She certainly, at least, needs to know your desire is to share a good life with her. State your desire without an invitation or request to do anything. Saving the marriage is such a big ticket item, don't put it out there with any request on your part for her to do anything.
You may, even this week, invite her to do fun things, but, at this stage, don't invite her to "work on the marriage". State you intentions, and at a different time, invite her to taste the sweetness of your interesting and delightful life. Even if it's a glass of wine. Enjoying food and wine with a sparkle in your eye and a grin on your face is attractive.
Ragarding pursuit.
I would remove the word "pursuit" from your language. Not even mild pursuing. The word carries power and has connotations, even in your own mind. For now, banish it.
I prefer the images of attracting, inviting, glowing, shining brightly, drawing her in. It's subtle, but it makes a world of difference.
An old pastor once told me, "Attract, don't pursue, invite don't indict."
Watching a movie you are dying to see and inviting her in to the fun is fine. Asking her on a date, on which the fun depends on her participation is not so great, since your GAL activity depends on her saying yes. You still need to show her she's not necessary to your happiness, but it's fine to invite her in on your already existing happiness. The death knell in situations like this is the belief that SHE is crucial for your happniness. If you believe it you'll be afraid and angry. If she believes it, she'll feel suffocated or contemptuous of you.
And from what I've read, she's not yet seeing a happy, effervescent Mark. She sees you moving on and not pursuing and not falling apart. Great. Now show her the fun, joyful adventurous side of you.
I would advise against talking about money over drinks.
Your "fun" times need to be fun, let your business be business.
