H and I own business together, still talking

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Now that I've read a lot of R books, I can see where I could have done things differently and should have initiated communication about problems. If I'd read these books when she first left

WEll you could always take your W to see Boulder, Colrd. and spend day with Michele, she does private one on one couples.
We all wish we had read these books earlier. Trouble is part of the split up is MLC,since we have not knowledge of this how could we have prepared. As I told one C, we encourage people learn learn right up to PhD level and yet almost zero relationship education. Well du, is it any wonder relationships fail???. just my thought , plus MLC is not about working things out it is about running!!!!

Don't think W is rethinking D at all, makes me wonder if she is seeing someone although D24 says she never goes anywhere. First court date is Wed for property settlement. Then on the 23rd for spousal support. If she goes through with the D she won't be able to stay on my ins plan. I have great ins, $300 deductible per year. My bills for bypass surgery were over $100,000, I paid out $300. Don't know what she can get from work but nothing like mine I'm sure. Company pays $7 per hour we work for our health care.

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yea, both of you are going to loose out economically, alot. Your W is not even thinking in real terms. Just like my H. Look at our business and income issue??? H will do nothing!

or when I first noticed a problem maybe we wouldn't be in this mess. All I can get from her is we grew apart.

She is working for Wal mart, they don't care about their employees. They have scheduled her in the past to start at 4AM work until 2PM, come back in at 8PM until 11PM and back in at 4AM. Thats a caring employer isn't it? I think the OM was a co-worker, they scheduled their days off together.

Mike we can't change the past, we can only deal with everything one day at atime. Your W is not thinking at all. Why are you doing property and income settlement's when you are contesting D? thought court dealt with that first??? Are you contesting D?

Take some time and go for a brisk walk. Refresh your mind. After Sunday and funeral you need to walk abit and get your mind off all of this. Remember drag your feet on D. Does your W say anything about D to her kids and if so what sort of feedback is she giving them? Your kids must be really upset.