At first I thought it was me. Maybe I did something to make my H have an A. I know now that I did nothing. All I'm guilty of is loving him for the past 15 years. I stayed home while he was on the road taking care of our child, who btw was born a preemie (he's a normal happy and healthy 8 year old now). When he first came home from the hospital, 2 months after he was born I wasn't able to go anywhere with him. So I stayed home took care of him the house, the laundry etc. While my H went out and lived a single life. It's all up to him now. He knows what he's done to us but is still saying he is confused. He dosen't know whether to go or stay. Therapy was intense last night. I finally got out a few things but we are in the same place we were in before he told me about the A. My therapist says to stop being nice and let him decide what it is he wants to do. At least now I'm a little bit more prepared for it. That dosen't mean I won't be hurt but I don't think he can hurt me anymore than he has already. Now it's a wait and see game but until he starts being a husband to me I will not be a wife to him. There is nothing more I can do and I won't let him treat me this way any longer. I do know that the ow meant nothing to him and she lives in another state where he dosen't go anymore but I'm done. He's pushed to far and he'll be the one that will wake up one day and realize what he threw away and by that time it will be too late.Hopefully he'll come to his senses before that can happen. So, can you all tell at this moment how angry I am [Mad] . Let's see how I will feel tomorrow....NikkiNY

Nikki