One More Night

[Rob1231]

I have been very busy this weekend. Haven't posted because I couldn't find the right song. I think I found a good one...

As a fellow Song Title Thread Namer, I can TOTALLY relate. And yeah, good choice!

OK, DB'ers ... bring it on... take the gloves off and let me have it. I'm a big boy - I can take it.

No 2x4's here - you did fine IMHO.

I had a nice long telephone conversation on the way home with a trusted friend who suggested that what I see as a "GAL," my wife sees me as "LTH" ... leaving the house. In other words, my GAL's aren't moving me to the "next level." And if what I am doing isn't working (and it isn't), then it's time to try something different. I am not giving up my GAL's - just adding to them. And what I am adding is gentle pursuit, such as casual flirting (drive-by flirting), and indirect pursuing. For example, invite her to sit down to dinner when it's a "quickie/family-on-the-run-stand-at-the-island-in-the-kitchen dinner." Offer her a drink. Share a bottle of a new wine. Offer to watch a DVD movie together. Nothing big. But, as most of us know, the wife has no idea that I am DBing - no idea that I want to keep the family intact. I have committed to him that I will do these thigs this week. And she wants to have a "money talk" this week, so when she brings it up again, I will suggest we have it over cocktails at a local watering hole.

Following up on what I posted on your last thread, re. the part in blue above... I think you ought to tell her where YOU stand in terms of the M right now - make it clear that you have NOT given up on it, regardless of what she thinks. Once again, this needs to be done without crossing the line of heavy pursuing where she sees you pressuring HER to change.