I like what you're saying about focusing on yourself, taking this time to really get your head together and figure out what you want, and especially the part about not having any idea what you're going to learn about yourself along the way. Sounds like you're really open, and that's excellent.
I'm getting some ambivalence from you re W, though. I was surprised to read this:
Originally Posted By: Atlas
I was so excited, high expectations and all.
I hadn't got that sense from you when you posted about her asking to come over. I know you were pleased as you guys hadn't hung out much lately, but didn't realize you had high expectations.
I was really glad to read this, though:
Originally Posted By: Atlas
Well of course she didn't show, and you know what it didn't bother me.
So maybe your expectations weren't really that high, or you were just able to recover very quickly. Either way, a good thing.
And re your S talking about OM: That had to suck. Nothing like hearing your child sing the praises (or just mention) someone else. Did you stop and think about the 48-hour rule there? Your W is so skittish that her reaction to your text didn't surprise me, so I know it didn't surprise you.
I think it was a great idea to decline the offer to hang out with her and S, and to line up plans with friends on the assumption that W is going to flake on you.
GD's right: She's lucky to be on your list. Keep up the excellent PMA and focus on yourself. You're doing great.
