MC, as long as we don't have to see it, you can come along. And, only if lwb does her call of the wild!
So, right before H left to rendevouz w/ow, he came into the room where I was getting dressed to ask about something. Just for the heck of it I had gotten out the black lace for my "night out". He got an eyeful and left and then, came back in kind of stammering about something else... Needless to say, I couldn't have planned that any better.
You got to love these men.....they can be sooooooooooo predictable about some things....a bit of lace, a thong.....I lurv it.....makes me think about a scene from 'War of the Roses' with Kathleen Turner and Michael Douglas - the loft scene.....he he......
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Hope you had a fun time at the book store!!!! Remember to be very vague and dreamy-eyed about your night out (think Marilyn Munroe). Also, if you don't normally wear make up all the time, start doing so. And doing your hair. And being very happy. Think happy and you'll feel happier. Also, you'll be shocked at how many men start to notice you. Even though you know you aren't "ready" for anything yet, it's a nice little ego booster.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
ROOT - I have never been one to "let myself go" so to speak but have been getting out the scented lotions and perfumes since H says they all make him sneeze. And, well.. it's not about him anymore!
Back at home, I have to say that I did very well being elusive. I think it really confused him since he had been gone w/ow earlier. He didn't know what to think!
Theo - Awww... You always know just what to say to the ladies
Great for you LO, the timing couldn't be better for having that lace out. I had to laugh on that one. I can just imagine the face on your H. Sometimes I can just imagine a comedy version of all these situaions. If only we are not part of the cast in real life!!!
More stuff to keep in mind.... If your husband gets nosy and asks questions. Just point out, of course you would never be dating anyone seriously because you are still legally married. And you would never want to mislead anyone, you don't want any rebound relationships and you'd like to enjoy being single for awhile so you can find someone extra special... not just the first guy to come along. On the other hand it is interesting to see what's out there..... hummmm..... dreamy look (hee hee!!!!).
Other things if husband keeps needling for details.... You only eventually want a healthy, wonderful, forever relationship with a guy who would make a great stepdad to your kids. I remember telling my husband, "Don't worry, I will pick someone who will make a great stepfather. Someone who really cares about the kids and wants to spend a lot of time with them. Maybe even someone without kids of his own so he can devote 100% to them." (Let your H think that one over!!!!). I even once told him he might want to think about fixing me up with someone who he thinks is really great and might make a great stepdad. It's in his best interest that his children have a positive, good male living with us.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
I am just amazed: your bomb date and mine are exaxtly the same - WOW!!
I think you need to continue on your path - your H and mine differed in that his OW was more hidden and he really did not get off the fence until recently (mine just kept climbing back on the fence). Your H seems so confused - he really needs to see what his life will be like w/o you -I am not sure he has the slightest idea of what that means!!
Continue taking care of you!
Have a great week!
HB
Me41 H44 * M16 yrs * D13 S10 8/06 H wants a D * 1/07 OW Truth 2/07 Searated * 7/07 H moved home First Thread Surviving Separation Now Piecing
Hi HB - Ugh... What a horrible anniversary to have to remember! I don't know if my H is still confused or not. I think he is so involved w/ow and her kids that there will be no turning back. Too bad he's not thinking as much about his own child's future.
Sooo... since we are d'ing, should I or shouldn't I go to a crzy family wedding??
