Geeze I'm tired... our flight was cancelled, they put us on a 9pm flight, which didn't leave the ground until around 10:15. After all was said and done, we didn't get home until after midnight. I got up at my usual ungodly hour to come to work and have a lot of catching up to do. Still no nookie, but still on track.
Oh, and GGB, the moratorium had a lot to do with this new attitude, but the NMMNG exercises, reading/listening to the book, working on myself, GAL, has a lot to do with it, too. Stopping the "keep her happy at all costs" mentality seems to be particularly helpful. Relaxing, not being reactive, and letting myself be funny, even when it might be more crude than I would normally allow myself to be --- and then definitely not taking it personally when she reacts negatively to that kind of humor, helps too. I'm not talking about foul mouth gutter humor, btw. Just maybe something I wouldn't have said in the past because it wasn't "politically correct", or "her" brand of humor.
For example...we happened to be sitting around with her sister and my bro-in-law, watching something like the "Game Show Network". This show came on called "Dog Eat Dog", a game show/fear factor kind of combination. I'd never seen it before, and my first thought was, "is this some kind of reality show?", but they also showed, during the opening credits, some barking dogs. "I've never seen this before," I said. "So is this a 'game style' show, a 'reality style' show or a 'doggie style' show?"
Of course it cracked bro and sis in law up, but W rolled her eyes and actually left the room. In the past, I might have apologized, or gotten up and gone after her. Instead, I just enjoyed watching it with the other adults. I figured, "it's no longer my job to avoid the possibility of offending her." She came back a couple minutes later and sat by me. I say that, as if there's some significance to the fact that she sat down next to me, but really...I didn't care where she sat.
