Dear Hope - I think she didn't take her first h back because of the physical abuse. he was a surgeon, and he used to drink and hit her. It got worse. He also had OW, and then the current one has something on him professionally. . . so he is trapped with her. Apparently they fight all the time, and are quite unahppy together. Anything that my friend has that the OW hears about she has to have, only bigger and better!! Oh and he hasn't married the OW, although she would like him to.
This was more than MLC, the man was gong crazy - she started dating again about 4 years after she and her h finally split, but his affair had beengoing on for about a year before the final split - they were going to MC and he was denying thedrinking and carying on with the affair..
When she filed for divorce, after they had been apart for 4 years her h told her that 'he never wanted this to happen'!!!
I believe that he regrets it to this day, but he wasn't prepared to deal with his demons. His children tolerate him . . . it is very very sad, because he had everything. Fantastic career, lovely wife, and great kids,
Now he is a fairly lonely and isolated man trapped in a pretty loveless relationshp. My friend went through hell, being left with 2 young children, but as she says 'What goes around come around'. Not that we wish bad on these people - they do it to themselves sadly.
