Don't do the nice approach! It WON'T WORK! You've been nice all along Karen. Stig, you are nuttier than a fruitcake. Patience? The last thing Karen needs to rely on is her patience. Not if she wants change and a good SL. I like the monkey behavior approach but I still don't think that is going to work (without the in your face stuff to soon follow).
But I agree with the others, stop planning it and just do it. Take some action. I'm sure you will be kicking yourself for not doing it sooner.
