She's ready to move on

[Dr LOve]

MCC,

Ok Guy this is comming from somebody that has been there / done that. and a person that engages his mouth before his brain alot..

"That's okay, he can sleep in D11 and D13's room... or with you."

Ok let it go. I think you are at the phase of talking things too personal. I did this also. I jumped the gun on alot of things. you need to get to the point of just saying "ok" and let it go.I know it is hard. I took things like W making son breakfast for son and not me PERSONAL, I too W dumping my clothes on the bed and not folding them PERSONAL. ButI learned to just let it go becase if I didn't my attatude changed and then I gave her fuel to not want to be around me.

D13 asked why she deletes all her messages and Einstein (me) said:

"Mommy has to cover her tracks"

Your said it before I did STUPID.... You (like me) need to chose your words wisely.
I can't tell you how may times I wanted to say "why don't you ask OM to fix the sink" or "I bet OM will be a great father" or "Maybe I should cheat on you like OM is cheating on his wife"

Agian I know this is hard. We were /are hurt. We want to lash out at something but this will only push things farther away. and last but not least....

Hmm. Being me, I can't leave well enough alone. She was making the 'bed' (the couch) and I said "I have one more question for you."

NO No NO...

I have made mistakes too I have learned to just move on. You bring things up and it just makes them BIGGER MISTAKES. I does not sound like you have detached far enough yet. you seem to be doing things to please her still not make things better. If you do things just to please her how long can you keep it up before you revert back to being yourself?
Change for YOU. Your Wife had a plesent memory of the evening and you just brought back the bad memories for her to think about all night, instead of the Good " she had a great time and "thank you"." Memory to sleep on.


so to recap:

1. Don't take it personal. this just changes your PMA
2. Think BEFORE you speak (say it to yourself and think how it sounds to you. Sarcastic? Mean?, Hurtfull?, PISSED?
3. DO NOT RE CHARGE mistakes,Don't Bring them back to life. let them die. Move on.

Husband