Anned, Thank you. I have been unsure how to respond to Dom. You see my husband thinks that are marriage is going to be better overnight. The only thing he has asked me to do is accept him as he is. That means I accept him as a pot smoking, porn viewing, cheater who doesn't work. So in his eyes, I am supposed to be ok with that and love him. He has never asked me to do anything else. I lived with the pot smoking. I lived with him not working. I lived with him looking at the computer every day. What drew the line was watching porn in the kitchen while my daughter is home, going to cheaters websites to actively look for a wife who wants to cheat and setting up a meeting to have sex. I do not know how often he has met women for sex. He was going to have her show up at his radio show and have sex while he was on the air.So he was risking his radio license and his marriage for a few moments of thrill. We were still having sex, once or twice per week. When I asked him to leave, he admitted to having a sex addiction and that he needs help. Some of the porn sites he was looking at were of teens (my daughter is 16)which is illegal just as having marijuana is illegal. Both things made me and my daughter very uncomfortable.
Anned, my daughter is in counseling. I wanted to do marriage counseling and my husband was thinking about it. He thought about it for a couple of days and then said he doesn't have faith in counselors. He doesn't want to read the information that I give him. My daughter and I have never had an issue getting along (accept when she was little and I made her go to school or clean her room!).
Thanks for the website. I will check it out. I grew up with an alcoholic father and understand that my husband will not change until he wants to change and change for himself. He will not change, give up pot, to keep his marriage, he will only give it up when he realizes that he is harming himself and all of his relationships.
