Mermaid - this 'being friends' with our spouse is a tricky one. I wonder if it doesnt have a lot to do with the manner of their leaving and subsequent behaviour? As well as our own moral framework.
I sense that the world thinks we are'immature' for not having a cordial relationshp with someone who has behaved appallingly. We are told it is 'better' for the children. I remain unconvinced, not because of my own sitch, but because of what I know and have seen with others. Children are not fools. Very often they go along with nicey nicey because it is easiest for everyone. Most children have a very clear moral code. They believe in trust and loyalty. But they also want to have both their parents in their life, and will go along with what keeps that.
If we can be cordial that it is probably better for our kids on one level, but I don't thnk we should fool ourselves that they don't come to their own views as they grow up.
Your example is supremely important, as as you are clearly not eaten up with bitterness, your girls will make their own judgement in all of this. IMO. Some of these people, in any case, make it almost impossible for any kind of r . . . .
