Today was incredible with W. We went to the chinese carnival at S7's chinese language school and had a good time. We ate afterwards at a chinese restaurant and enjoyed ourselves. When we got home we did the family things we used to do on a sunday evening. After the kids got to bed, we talked about many things concerning our divorce, our R and her A.
It started off a bit with the new crazy W as she was very upset at the way I canceled credit cards and bringing my cats back into the house without consulting her. But I got her to calm down and was able to talk with the old W for a couple hours tonight. This was the same rational W I feel in love with. She honestly told me that OM is just an EA now and has never gotten to be a PA. She does say that the OM is a really nice guy that listens and understands her. She admits that she lives about half of her time at his house but that they have never slept together as there may be some physical attraction or physical disablilties going on. She admitted that he is indeed 67 years old.
We seem to be ok on our D talks and she sees I am reasonable in all I offer. She wants to hold off the divorce being final until after her dental appointment. She is really ignorant about lawyers and still does not think she will get one.
Finally, I was able to express that it will never be to late for her to change her mind up to the point of our divorce being final. I told her that she and our kids are the greatest thing to happen in my life. I wear my rings not for her, but for the sanctity of my commitment to our marriage. She said that she sees a lot of confidence in me. I told her that I truely believe that she is in a MLC and that she may come out of someday with huge regret. As she left the house tonight, she thanked me and I thanked her for having a really good conversation. We had a nice hug at the door.
I dont know how hopeful to be anymore but tonight was one of the best in a long time with W. Too bad that tomorrow I will probably have to give her divorce papers and a restraining order. At least I have prepared her for the fact that they sound a little hostile when in fact we can change the terms easily.
