Amy, I have to wonder if he is having some serious self-worth issues. There seems to be nothing prosperous that he can cling to.... and it would seem that the alcohol numbs the pain of it all. Nothing you can do or say is going to make the change for him.... I know you know that.... just re-iterating.
Please don't let your focus get all caught up in his problem. Work on Amy... her relationship with God, our father and that will trickle blessedly to your children and others around you. Most definately continue prayer for Jeff.... but keep your eyes trained on Jesus not the circumstance.
Psa 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
