The Great Wall Part II

[Burgbud]

Don't wait until your message is perfect before you start communicating. Don't wait until *you're* perfect. When are you going to quit walking on eggshells and start being Karen? Is her your H really that dainty?

Ask for what you want. If you wanted sex you'd be initiating and you'd have it. You want desire. Tell him you need to feel and believe in his physical desire for you to be happy in your marriage. When he's tired, you need to feel his desire. When he's had a bad day, you need to feel his desire. When the pressures of the world intrude, you need to feel his desire. Tell him he either doesn't feel physical desire for you or he's incapable/unwilling to show you and it's time for you both to get honest about that right now.

Then he'll either put on his big boy pants or he won't.