Had about a 2 hour conversation with XW on Tuesday. It revolved around s8 and some of his behaviors. HE has apparently been bullying s4 over at the other house, among other things. He has been more excited over here, but nothing behavior wise like she has described. I was criticized from everything from to not disciplining correctly to over giving for Christmas and Birthdays. The teacher is wrong, the counselier is a crack pot, and I am soft. Everyone is wrong except her. Now for the bad stuff. She sounded so bitter towards him. She basicly told me that she has given up on him. She again brought up meds, but she didn't even sound like she was trying to sound like a loving mother. It was horrible. And I have to admit that it floored me, I get choked up even thinking about it now, a week later. I stressed that we needed to appear on the same page. I stressed that I didn't have the same problems here. She said that was because I am too soft(I would think that would make behavior worse). She brought up about 15 times how great of a kid that XSTS13 is, which is true but I hope she isn't making comparisons to S8(verbaly to s8) over there. She said that S8 was going to make S4 off himself with all of his bullying. She gave me 2 examples.... I told her that they fight here but mostly get along. It goes on, but it's all the same.
I think that she is putting too much pressure on S8, I think that S8 is desperate for attention, I think that she wants him on meds to sedate him so they don't have to deal with him. I think she is blaming everything and everyone but herself and grasping at straws for solutions to avoid looking in the mirror. I am angry, not the bitter, bitch all the time feel sorry for myself angry that I am used to. I am the kind of angry where there is a fire all lit up under your ass. I have to fight this, but I have to work with her so I can know what is going on over there, which I will as long as the lines of communication are open. This is no longer about me and her and me trying to survive her crap. This is about protecting my son from his mother, everything has lead up to this. Every last bit of strength I have had to build, every last drop of crap I had to have drop on me, every new friend I have made to beg to pray for my kids.... It was all for this. And the fact is that I am not scared anymore. I don't care who I piss off. You mess with my kids, you mess with my air. I will fight this at home, by being a loving father, by continuing to take him to the C, by encouraging him to play and be a big brother to S4. These are all things that I have been doing. What will be different however, is that I will be honest with him. When he or they complain about going there, I would try to build up the other household, I will still do that, but I will also validate their feelings about not wanting to leave. There are some chanes coming and I also fele like there will be a war.
I have said for a while now that there was nothing left for her to do to hurt me. I was good, and everything slid off my back. I was wrong. You mess with my kids, you mess with my air. Pray for my children.
Last edited by blyndfaith; 01/07/0803:28 AM.
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