Hopefloats, I have thought a lot about this upcoming event today. I have decided that I will most likely still go, but I am going to lay down the law and let him know that i am not interested in him that way. He is a good friend of 13 yrs, and I know he will understand, (as he has in the past when he used to make advances at me before I was married-i had turned him down then too). He is a really nice person and another one of our Married friends even went with him last year because he wasn't seeing/dating anyone at the time. I am also going to let him know that my parents are going to be picking me up that evening at 12:00ish so I don't have to feel any pressure to do anything afterwards with him that i know I don't want to do. I am true to my vows, and I am also trying to GAL, and possibly wake H up a little bit that I am out experiencing Life. I am hoping that it will simply be an evening of fun, and drinks, and a nice meal, and getting dressed up, and meeting new people, and dancing (as I love to do so much). It would be me - making a decision for myself to have fun as much as possible - with out worrying about what my H would think. Besides my H has been out doing only God knows what with probably the lowest life forms around (the first time he left me he was in EA with a Stripper). My parents were even saying to me that they feel it would be a really good idea to go with him (they also have know this friend forever) and just try to get out and have a good time. I do hope that I am making a good decision for me. I know my friend will understand and still treat me respectfully when I remind him of my seriousness in my commitment to my marriage. I am most likely going to also inform my H's parents ahead of time so they understand it is just a night to get out and have some fun, and not some kind of affair. The inlaws also know the friend who is taking me and most likely will be happy to see me do some thing that might help me take my mind off of the drama. Thanks for listening, TIPPER.
