OK -here goes the honesty bit again:


H, listen carefully because I’m only going to say this once. We haven’t had sex since last February and I see no indication that we will have any anytime soon. That is bull sh*t and it hurts me. What is more H is that you KNOW that it hurts me. I’ve told you before that it does. This is nothing new. You choose over and over again to ignore me sexually unless you want a baby. Well, it sucks and it makes me feel miserable, ignored, hurt. I am a hot, horny Mama and we could have a lot of fun in bed. Too bad you don’t care. I don’t want to hear all your crappy excuses about stress, exhaustion, events in our life etc… Don’t think that I don’t realize that I haven’t initiated either but I refuse to rape my own husband. We have had NO reason good enough to go any more than a week without some sexual contact. Unless you are done or fcuking someone else. If so, I have a right to know.

I think I’m a good wife and a good mother and I deserve someone who loves me the way I want to be loved. There is help out there – sex therapists, books, talking to one another and you just go about your way choosing to DO NOTHING and what’s worse, I keep letting you. I’m an idiot and culpable for ALL of my inaction.

I do not intend a divorce but I am reaching my personal limit of giving a sh*t. The woman you know won’t last forever in the h*ll of being alone in our marriage.