Is this the thread that the thread thread was refering to????
I'm no expert by any stretch but I think that focusing on you and making the changes in yourself that you know are good for you may very well prove positive for the relationship with your wife. It is hard to try to make someone else happy when you aren't truly happy with yourself( that much I am an expert on).
Hmmm... don't know what to say about the situation with the "friend" from the massage seminar..... and the gift giving most certainly wouldn't sit well with me. But I admire the way you handled it.... you seem very willing to really hear her and try to understand ....
Hang in there Frank.
Psa 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.