That was exactly what I thought about cac. He was horny. So what? You can't always get what you want. I sure as heck wasn't getting what I wanted. At all. Life sucks. I didn't see his need for sex as any more important than my need for help with the cooking or cleaning (when we were DINKs).
Years ago I stumbled on the fact that if we had sex right before attending an event like a wedding or some other occasion, he'd be more likely to pay attention to me. I realized that if it had been awhile since we had sex, I could expect to be mostly ignored. So what did I do? In the future I tried to make sure we had sex before such events. And that was it. Did it occur to me that he was ignoring me because he felt that I didn't love him? No way! In my eyes I showed my love in lots of ways. Except in the bedroom of course.
I'm so glad that your H has seen the light, LFL! I do believe that once you get to that point there's no going back. I could never go back to the way I was. It's almost like I don't know who I was back then. But, like Corri says, you can't see what you can't see until you do. As long as your H not only wants to love you in your language but also wants the great sex life for himself as well, you've won the biggest battle. You're prepared to deal with any bumps along the way (and there will be some) so that's great!
