H gave "needs" list

[Jen1967]

I had had it with the whole waiting game and told H enough was enough with the OW. He said if he got rid of her what would we do? I said go to C. He said OK and asked me to find one. Said he'd make a "needs" list of things he needs. He brought it over. It's very pushy and controlling-sounding. Plus, he is backing off of C idea and hasn't gotten rid of OW. Anyway, other than the fact that the items are listed with an undertone of hostility, many of them are reasonable requests. Then he said he wants a list from me. Mind you, he attached a letter to his list pretty much reaffirming why he wants out of M. Makes sense? No. Anyway, how do I approach my needs list? He seems teetering here and I don't want to ruin it. But my short list is:

Get rid of OW 100%.
Go to pastor with me.
Go to C with me.

Long list:
things like he listed, general marital needs, sex, dates, attention, freedom, blah blah.

How do I handle this? Is he just setting me up, stringing me along? what's this all about?