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I don't know many women IRL who love sex or who feel loved through sex. Back in my dark LD days it simply didn't occur to me that I was really missing the boat.


I think you are pretty normal mrs.cac. Lots of women Don't feel love through sex. Actually lots of guys too I bet. My H was one of them. But like you said, I think he finally realizes he was missing the boat. And now he is like a kid in a candy store. Lucky me.
And also, he felt I must be like most women too and not need sex to feel love. But I do! That was a shocker to him. I think he just thought I was horny. \:\/ When he finally made the connection between the sex and me feeling in love with him, it really worked. In a way, it gave him permission to be as sexual with me as he wanted because he wanted us to love each other.
His worst fear was always that I would fall in love with someone else. Even after I dated the soldier guy and H and I reconciled, I remember my H not being concerned with the sex as much as asking me "do you love him?" I said no and he was perfectly fine with not knowing anything else. He didn't think the hot sex had anything to do with me being in love with someone, whether soldier boy, him, or anyone else. Seems weird but that's what he thought. We've been talking about this all week and he still shakes his head at how stupid he was being. As do I. \:\/
At least we're on the right path now.

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