Hi, Kaycie. I understand how you feel where your daughter is concerned. All I can say is pick your battles carefully. Kids need structure and loving guidance AND the fun and cuddly stuff. Even if it was imperfect, there was a time you and your husband complemented one another when it came to raising the kids. Now that you are separated, things are askew. Just don't forget that even though the duties and perks of parenting are off balance and even unfair now, the things you instilled in them when they were little will prevail.