You know I know we call it fence sitting on the site, and that is what she is doing. But I can say for sure, that without work on herself she is still so resentful, so I wouldn't so much all it fence sitting as continuing to try and hurt me.
I'm just going to stick with my plan of a 30 day assessment. I have way too much on my plate that deals with me, to worry what she is thinking and doing.
Well she never called about today, and I'm not going to bother with it. She isn't doing anything to improve her self or life. I think she is content in her situation. Matter of fact looking back I can't recall W not relying upon a man since I meet her over a decade ago. Which fits with her abandonment issue. She has to find someone to carry her so they can leave her eventually and she can keep the same pattern going.
I'm not going to be that person anymore. No tunnel and see what happens. She needs to find responsibility on her own. If not just as all the R books state she will carry her problems into the next R and so forth, never resolving anything.
That is what is great about DB'ing, it is for you. It is about you, and it helps you to resolve your internal R issues so that you can have and receive what you want out of life.
If your S is unwilling to change, or confused to the point of seeing a problem with themselves, then that is there issue.
