A personal journey through Karen's eyes

[Dom R]

Dom,

FWIW - I have never explicitly nor implicitly threatened H. I have never used the D word - only he has.

Karen... what you intend, and what you say, and what he hears, are 3 separate things.

The words you choose to reflect what you intend to say, may be interpreted completely differently, by "someone who isnt you".
and most importantly, it's how your husband specifically, interprets the words, that matters here.

Something in what you are saying, implies "divorce" to him.
Otherwise, he would not have said that word himself.

It may not imply it to you.
But it does to him.
So in his mind, he is being threatened. or at the least feeling threatened.

What would happen if I really let loose? Dunno - probably he would consider leaving.

i disagree. I suggested you let loose on him, 6 months ago was it?

Your husband sounds like the person who might "wish" he could leave, but like you, will not seriously consider it.
I think it could be quite effective.

NOT as effective, as approaching him on biblical grounds, however.


PS: dont tell a man "do whatever you want". it doesnt work.

you've tried that already. look where it got you?
Doing the same on your part, will result on more of the same on his part.
ifyou're going to use your "script" that you posted, i suggest completely cutting out the last paragraph with "do what you want".

Replace it with, "Give me what I deserve!!!!"