Oh, and in case no one buys this. One of my last interactions with x resulted in her blaming me for her own current financial disaster as a result of her own need to soothe herself via maxing out her credit cards .. especially after ALLLL she's done for me over the years.
Funny how she didn't have a problem buying things for me or AOS when she was attracted to me, hm?
Moreover, she doesn't seem to be able to remember anything I did to keep our ship clipping along, both financially and AOS-ily.
Well, that's all clearly a sign of lingering fusion. I think most people would objectively say that my 2bx did rather f*ck me over with post-split financial mattters but when I find myself feeling/thinking that way I know I'm being a baby and a loser. Some healthy differentiated part of me still appreciates what my 2bx did do to contribute to our household, especially when the children were young but that appreciation does not translate into any feeling of continued commitment to a relationship with him beyond perhaps wanting to give him a hug when we become co-grandparents (I know, I know, who would want a co-grandparent hug from me? But I'm being honest when I express the fact that my cow will always have some attachment to the father of my children.)
And while we're bringing up examples from our marriages. I can assure you that my 2bx definitely bought himself more time and made himself more attractive in our marriage when in response to my "I won't hug anyone who won't hug me back" campaign, he once said " I wish you would touch my hair like you thought I was a good person like you used to."
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