Here Yet Again

[Livin4ME]

So I haven't been posting for a while. I did an update under Extramarital Affairs a while back. Here's a brief look at my sitch. H left August 2007. I found out about OW in October, after 2 weeks of us being friends with benefits. I left for a week and he begged me to come home and work on us. I did, a week later he left again. Went back to OW. We spent Thanksgiving together with his family at their cottage. I decided to spend the holidays with my family in another state and have been gone since Dec. 1st.
Since then, H ended things with the OW on New Year's Eve, has bought a one-way ticket to come visit us in 2 weeks with the hopes that I will go back with him. He has been in contact with the same office that my therapist is with, and is waiting on them to call him back to schedule an appt. regarding his depression. Has gone to the dr to be testing regarding STD's. And has been making an attempt to straighten out his life. Meaning, he is making alot of decisions regarding his life. ie, ending it with OW, seeing a therapist, eating better, not drinking as much, going to bed earlier, spending more time with his family.
I need to go back and read my DB and DR books, but from what I can remember, I've been trying to follow it. Letting him bring up conversations, asking questions, but not being intrusive. Validating what he saying. Being the first one to have to get off the phone or to stop texting. Not bringing up the OW. We did have a talk the other day regarding the whole situation, but I told him, I just had some questions I needed answered, and that was it. He answered them, so we wouldn't talk about it again, unless the therapist wanted to talk about it, and then it would be in a controlled environment. He was fine with that. And I've held to it.
Right now its alittle bit easier because we're not together. He's still at our house and I'm out of state with my family. I know it will be harder when I go back, which I am seriously considering doing when he comes down for his visit. I have refound my faith. I lost it for a while, but I have been doing alot of soul searching, reading my Bible and praying about the whole sitution and I know that I'm going to have to lean on that alot to help me. I know I am going to be tested with snooping and being nosey and such.
So that's it, we'll see what happens. We've talked alot. And he's done all this on his own. I've told him I'm proud of him for having the strenth to make these decisions and I'm happy for him for wanting to improve his overall life.
I'm sure I'll be on here alot more again, reading other posts and asking advice